A prudent approach to filing for an annulment

We’ve fought about this. We’ve always fought about this.
I was in the bedroom on my ipad air checking my email and what not and suddenly Stooey and Pixie started barking like crazy because there was someone outside the balcony. The balcony door was closed but I kept the blinds open for the sunlight to come in to do work. 
The apartments are doing maintenance to revamp the place. There was a lady working with the cement outside. She held some sort of device that sounded like a leaf blower. 
Usually when Stooey and Pixie start barking like crazy, I don’t get up and stop them. There is a barrier between the stranger and the dogs. They won’t stop barking unless the stranger goes away, which isn’t anytime soon. I get irritated after a few minutes of them barking like that. But Jake, in the other hand, goes berserk and tries to pull the dogs away as if they’re attacking the woman.

When he heard the dogs barking, he immediately stopped playing video games from the living room, opened the door without knocking, and slapped my back to get my attention.

“What’s wrong with you! Didn’t I tell you to put the dogs away? All you’re doing is just sit there! You’d only do something when you see me coming!”

He then grabbed Stooey and went to the living room to continue playing video games. He slammed the door behind him. 

Pixie was with me, and she kept barking a little. Whenever her bark started to escalate, I would calm her. 
A few minutes later of doing this, Jake comes running in the bedroom again without knocking.

“Why aren’t you doing anything about it? All you do is just sit there. You only do something whenever I’m here! You need to start and paying attention, Persephone!”

He grabbed Pixie, closed the blinds, and slammed the door again. 
I then heard him closing the blinds in the living room too. Now the apartment is dark inside.
It was hard for me to defend myself when he was talking over me like that. What annoys me is my skin stinging on my back. Did he really just hit me again? 
When he plays video games, he asks me to be quiet. There are plenty of people he talks to in the video game. Maybe he was angry because it was too loud? Maybe he was angry because he had to stop playing in the middle of the game? Or maybe both?
Do you think I did something wrong? This is my prudent approach to filing for the annulment.

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A tear and the saucepan

Yesterday, I offered to pay for my portion of the groceries when we went to Walmart. He always paid for the groceries. He does this because he makes more. But yesterday, he didn’t say anything. The stuff that I bought were the regular stuff that him and I share. Well, I guess not entirely. He ask a little bit of what I have, but it’s no big deal.

Today, I didn’t have any oatmeal so I decided to cook some. As I go to the kitchen I notice that he hasn’t cleaned the saucepan that he used 4 days ago. I texted him asking if he could clean it, and immediately, he rose and went to the kitchen and cleaned it. 
Mind you, he was wearing his boxers. He had just woken up, and right then and there, he cleaned the saucepan for me. 
I was surprised because he ususally doesn’t take my requests as a priority at all. He usually just brushes them aside until I end up getting irritated and cleaning the darn thing myself or I bug him too much about it that we end up fighting again. The fights he starts are mainly arguements we’ve had in the past. The ones that I thought we’ve already resolved. 

I continued to clean, and when I passed him, I noticed that he was sniffing his nose. I guess he was crying. He was sobbing a little bit. I don’t know why he was sobbing, it’s not like I asked him to clean the saucepan right away, as you can see in the text I sent him. 
I stopped cleaning just to write this. I had to type it just in case I’d forget.